After having a conversation with a girlfriend yesterday and sharing with her that over the past year or so I have come to the decision that “I DON’T ‘DO’ REASONS any more – she suggested that I share it with the world!!! – hence this post. 🙂 My awareness of this came from Robert Rabbin, and I have spent some time finding my own way with its meaning.
I decided that I don’t need permission from anyone to do or make the choices that I make. If I want to do something, or don’t want to do something…. I will do precisely that – follow what I want to do…. make my choice, make my decision… and share my desision without any explanation at all.
If I start to say “because…blah blah,” I catch myself now and am aware that I have started to justify myself and it is as if I am getting permission from another to make my choice.
I do not need permission from anyone for my choices. I am ultimately responsible for the consequences of my choices, and I will listen deeply from within to come to a decision – and I need no-one elses acceptance or permission for them.
I have found it interesting to observe that when I make a decision about something another person may not like or agree with; they will ask me WHY. It is as if they want an acceptable reason so it is OK for me to make that choice. I’m certain they would not ask me WHY if I came to a decision which they agreed with.
At a later time I would sometimes explain my thoughts or how I came to make a decision if someone asked me why…. not out of justifying – but rather to create deeper understanding between us.
….. so …. I dont ‘do’ reasons ! 🙂