I am writing this in support of all those who have been sexually harassed, abused or violated.
I have been sexually abused not by random strangers; not by family members – but by some men with whom I have trusted in both a professional capacity, or of friendship – who have taken advantage of, and misused my openness and lovingness as an opportunity and vehicle to meet their own personal and sexual needs.
This predatory behavior was masterful in its’ execution; manipulating and blind-sighting me because of my naivety and open-heartedness.
For me these have been abhorrent, deceptive and cowardly betrayals of professional conduct, friendship and trust; that pass through my thoughts as I navigate a path to not allow the perpetrators of this sexual abuse to destroy my kind, joyful and loving Spirit.
Some may ask “Why didn’t/don’t you do anything or say anything against those men?”. Only those who have been the recipient of such deceptive sexual abuse will be able to understand and answer; as I understand and see thousands of women on facebook write ‘#MeToo’ who have never spoken nor revealed before of their sexual abuse.
Perpetrators are often narcissists; and often twist the truth as a part of their manipulation – undermining the victim’s credibility; and in my instance these men cast blame upon anything and anyone other than themselves; and presented to me that it was ‘my fault for..’ their actions and behaviour.
For me I have chosen to ‘move on’ rather than to speak out; as a path for self-preservation. I have however learned much about making wiser and more empowered choices in relation to male bodywork practitioners, and friendships.
Perhaps me speaking up now may bring more awareness to those who have more courage than I; to speak out earlier against those who are manipulative, deceptive and abusive in their endeavour to have their own personal and sexual needs met.
“If all the people who have been sexually abused, harassed or assaulted wrote “Me too” as a status update, we might give people a sense of the magnitude of the problem.” #metoo copy/paste